group dynamics

its really difficult to manage group dynamics. esp when there is no one that is trying to, or no manager. everyone have their own styles and i guess they must be right to say that there are bound to be clashes while working tgt. members have different capabilities, different views, different priorities, different attitudes etc.

it is true that it is very hard to find a group of ppl that u can work with good productivity and a good experience. bounded very much by experiences (academic) w/in the schools, this is indeed relevant to me. last time in sec school/ jc it was still slightly better i guess. maybe with the higher level of tension and focus on grades in uni, things get a little worse.

in a group, i normally dun assume the leading role. i must keep myself in the loop, updated and understand the overall progress and direction of the team, but im not good at things like creativity in generating brand new ideas, or to push for deadlines and be strict abt it cos i dun have very high efficiency myself. i think i work best with ppl who all put in effort, and are able to communicate. some ppl say 遇强则强, but for me when there are other team mates who are "better" in the sense that they are more enthusiastic, are smarter/have better abilities (or act as if they do), i'd take a step back. when the team's rather cui, i'd step up more. its also important for me to enjoy the company of these people and not feel uncomfortable w em.

this is also likely due to the fact that i see being flexible and 随和 as very important qualities in a person. i dun like ppl who are too strong headed and always insist that they are right, or that their way is the best way of doing things. of cos, i certainly have times when i behave like this, but i think its fair to say that its not v frequent, and i do take other ppl's views into consideration always, unless im really strongly against it/ know that the other party is hundred per cent wrong for sure.

i know that in a group, ppl dun normally see me as a big asset, and there are many times i know im kind of under-contributing. and i dun like the feeling. im not a leech. but sometimes, i put human relations above work. under certain circumstances, the setting could be set in such a way that i cant possibly do too much without having little backfiring mechanisms acting against me here and there.

having a few recent experiences, i think that it is really important to manage group dynamics. in a group, everyone should be engaged and respected. of cos, respect is not a right, its a privilege. but however, i believe there should be effort to make sure ppl are not left out completely unless they really do not give a damn. in that case, giving them up could be more excusable. it is important for everyone to be in the loop and everyone knowing the progress, the overall picture. its so difficult to do it, though.

that said, a group can be built slowly over time and after time, ppl start to understand each other's working style much better and also, in building a team, there should be members possessing different qualities and expertise, and tgt they will make a great team. human relations are such interesting areas of research, and i really love observing and taking note of such stuffs. (and rmbring it for 10 years perhaps hahaha LTM ftw)